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Saturday, April 24, 2010

Long Story of a Big Apple


I realize our trip to the Big Apple is taking up a lot of words, it's a long read....but I won't apologize...you see at the end of the year we decided to have my blog to that date printed into a book. Turned out to be a nice thing, we think, to put aside for maybe a grandchild or two to read some time in the future. So I figure I might just as well include lengthy thoughts on our experiences, which you are free to read, skip or skim. Enjoy our pictures, or just wait for a shorter post.....meantime, hang on....here's more of wonderful New York City.
Back on the bus, we had a new guide, a gentleman about our age, funny and much more informative. When he found out where we are from, he talked a lot about the way it used to be here, lot of the clubs and restaurants he once visited. He is a history buff, partial to Teddy Roosevelt, and told us he once played the part of of that great man in a History Channel movie. He really looks the part!
When we asked about making it to the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island, he advised against trying it that day, it would be pressing to try to make the last ferry, and would give very little time to really seeing it all. So we opted to leave that for another day.
One of the first sites that was significant to me was Carnegie Hall where my distant cousin and piano teacher, Olive Cox had one time played. A bit later, we saw Madison Square Garden, and childhood memories flooded back of my Grandmother, Mary Davis taking me on the bus to see the circus, the Greatest Show on Earth there, sometime in the 50’s. As we passed along, the guide told us of the impending closing of St. Vincent’s Hospital. He appeared to have some strong emotions about the closing, talking about the hospital’s history up to and including the many who had been taken there after September 11. He pointed out the memorial of tiles at Greenwich and Seventh Ave. South which is said by some to be New York City’s last remaining spontaneous 9/11 memorial. There are hopes that these tiles will some day soon have a permanent home – safer and more secure than a chain link fence.
The tour took us past Chelsea, through the West Village, I believe that is where we saw the restaurant The Garage, recommended by our friend Bill for live jazz, (we hope to make it there next time), onto Bleecker Street, through Soho, Tribeca and we got off at the site of the World Trade Center in order to pay our respects.
On the way to the site, we passed a small jewelry store obviously having a sale. As we neared the door, a man stepped out the door and our eyes met. He walked over to us and said, “this is my store. I am liquidating.” We both tensed, preparing ourselves for the sales spiel, and ready to bolt. But that was not what he had on his mind. He proceeded to tell us he was originally from Nigeria (at least that is what we recall) and that he had married a woman from Georgia some twenty years ago. He had just read about a couple who were estranged, decided to try to work it out, and the husband ended up strangling his wife. He had picked us out of the crowd to discuss the state of affairs when one believes the best option is to kill, rather than just walk away. After a few minutes he asked me how long we had been married. When I replied 47 years, he gulped in surprise, and said there wasn’t much he could tell us. Then he gave Larry a business card, shook both our hands and we were off. I’d say “only in New York” but the truth is, we have had the strangest encounters in at least 5 countries. So maybe it’s “only on this planet” – but I doubt it.
I’d never seen the Twin Towers, but Lar had, in fact he had attended meetings in them. We joined many others who were walking around the area trying to get a sense of the scope of the tragedy, but there is little to see, as there are great barriers up surrounding the work area. But it seemed that we were not the only ones there simply wishing to pay homage to all of those innocents who lost their lives that terrible September day.
It was beginning to sprinkle, so we decided to get back to the tour bus stop and perhaps get an inside seat below. As we turned the corner, one of our busses was waiting and Lar approached the driver’s door to ask about inside seats. “Go back!” Extent of conversation. We were sitting up top, like it or not. Turned out it didn’t rain much, and while it was chilly, we were comfortable. One lady getting off at a stop said to me, “you are so smart! I am freezing!.” Glad again for the winter coat.
We drove through the financial district, along the seaport past China Town, Little Italy – the East Village, the United Nations – I’d hoped to get Lar there, too….got to be more trips to New York! … and finally we disembarked at Rockefeller Center, just about a block from the hotel. We stopped in a wine store for a bottle of wine for the evening and then went back to our room to freshen up.
That morning we had seen Heartland Brewery on the way to Time Square and had already determined that was where we would eat dinner. Just a short walk from the hotel, it turned out to be a great choice. I had veggie casadias, and Lar had a burger. He also ordered a “Round the World” beer sampler. I had one of their ales. Good beer. So good, in fact, that Lar asked about buying some to take back to the hotel. Only came in ½ gallon bottles…..hmmmm….no problem! We got one. Our server could not have been more gracious nor more attentive, food was good, ambiance fun….absolutely worth a visit.
On the walk back to the hotel, we discovered that one of the giant buildings now stands in the spot where Toots Shore’s once stood. We were there many, many years ago when that was a real “happening” place….brought back memories….Lar had been in the city on business, my Mom had come to take care of the two older boys and I caught a bus to go up too. Since the room, Lar’s meals, etc., were paid for, it was a good way for two pretty broke people could take the trip. We saw Fiddler on Broadway, and ate at Toot’s. Very cool.
Back in our room, Lar was carrying the ½ gallon of beer and said, “look, Pat might have a new baby, but I have one too!” I had to catch a picture of that! Also sent it to our kids!

Friday, April 16, 2010

More Bites from the Big Apple

Friday morning dawned an entirely different kind of day. While Thursday had been really almost too warm, Friday was cool and overcast - occasional sprinkles keeping you guessing.

I was so happy to have had to cart my winter coat around on the train and getting to NY because on Friday I really needed it! We set out to find breakfast and maybe just a block away we went into EuropaCafe. What a great choice! The employees are very accomodating, if they have it, they'll make it, however you want it. I opted for yummy, crunchy whole grain toast with two scrambled eggs, Lar had a delicious omelet with smoked turkey, mushrooms and American cheddar cheese and some of his own whole grain toast.

When I went to sit down, I discovered someone had left their pocketbook by the chair....one of the young men working there immediately remembered who was sitting there, ran out onto the street and located her - returning her property. So much for all the nasty stories one hears about the city. There are still beautiful human beings living among us....just don't get the press.

After a really good breakfast was under our belts we set out to get our tickets for our New York 2 day bus passes. Continuing up 51st street to 7th we walked to Planet Hollywood near Times Square. While waiting in line, I received a text from our middle son, Mike, and we chatted about the new baby...he had sent a congratulatory text to his brother but wasn't sure he'd gotten it. I forwarded that message to Pat, and got to thinking about how much things have changed in the past few years....everything....or many things...have become so immediate...no wonder we hate lines....we are becoming beings who expect everything to be in the moment...and those waiting times are often the times when so many other, lovely things happen. "Slow down....you're going too fast......"

Once on the tour bus and in our upper, outdoor seats, I really started to feel the city....I was seeing so much that I have actually hungered to see for years. As I child, I don't really know how many times I had the opportunity to come to New York on school trips. One of my fondest memories was when our bus was driving through maybe Brooklyn and making its way through a very poor section of run down homes, the yards were nothing but dirt and litter and there, in the middle of all that was a little yard with one little rose bush, blooming with just two white roses. Even at that age that yard was significant to me....I saw the tender care that rose bush was receiving....I saw the beauty in the midst of dispair, and I wished with all my heart I could meet the person who was still hopeful. That moment has stuck with me for something like 55 years.

Our first guide, Derrick, was a young man with a terrific sense of humor, an amazing memory, but he was only slightly informative. Another bus passed us and he shouted hello to a gentleman on board, remembering his name, his city of origin, and noticed that his young son was there too, but on an inside seat. That impressed me, figuring how many people he sees in a day!

It was a fairly short ride, through the Garment District, past Penn Station, Madison Square Garden, Macy's block long store and Herald Square when we got off the bus near 5th Avenue to walk around the corner to the Empire State Building.

At this point, I must confess that I had a sinister (well, maybe not sinister, but certainly ulterior) motive behind my actions on this trip. While I have had a deep love of the city, my dearest life-partner has not. He has been reticent to be in the city and it was my goal to make him fall in love with it. I wanted to have him see the things I knew, to feel the pulse of the city, to know its history...I know him....I felt that he would want to come back if I got him "caught up." So while there were things I wanted to do on this trip, I was perfectly happy to make it about him this time. That way, I felt, we'd be back. So up the Empire State we went....me smiling because I knew this was the surest way to hubby's heart. It was so much fun watching him at each level walk around and see the city from above. He was pointing out buildings and areas he knew and lighting up with the experience.










We took lots of time, just enjoying the air, the views, chatting with people until we were ready to go inside. We then bought tickets for something we were both looking forward to, the NY Skyride....Lar had read it is something like "Soarin'" in Disney. Not. While it has a few moments of fun, it is absolutely not worth the $36 each....I'd pay $10 tops.....just a herky jerky silliness...got some good views....eh....not what we expected. After a nice little lunch in another EuropaCafe - really - highly recommend those little cafes for very reasonable, very good meals (lunch and/or breakfast) we went back to the bus stop with hopes of making it to the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island.


Dear Maddie, Part Two

So we made our way, meandering, back to the hotel, stopped in our room for a bit and then made our way back up to the Terrace. Pop Pop had a beer, but I opted for some ice water and we just chilled for a while in the easy chairs set about in front of a fireplace and TV. When the bartender came by, I asked him, "would you guess we are just having a grandbaby?"
He was so nice! He asked all kinds of questions, including what your name would be. I told him the Madelyn part, but as of that time, we didn't know your middle name. It was so nice to be able to share our news with someone who, despite not knowing us, seemed to care.

Back in our room later, our phones began to buzz wildly, and there...in all your beautifulness, was a picture of our newest grandbaby. We fell in love immediately, Maddie....and we will love you forever.

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

A Letter to Maddie in a New York Minute

Dear Maddie,

On Valentine's Day, 2010, Pop Pop gave me a trip in a card. It was to be the get-away trip to New York City that I have been requesting for years and years.
And it was to be just around the time your Mommy and Daddy expected you to arrive.
But everyone knows babies don't come just when they are expected, so no probs.
The time came quickly for us - April 8th - no time at all....for your Mommy - a whole other story! She thought it took forever....she thought it was high time you made your appearance!
Pop Pop and I took the day slowly, we did odds and ends and savored being on no time schedule, and we didn't get to Hamilton train station until afternoon. The train ride to the city was terrific, we felt relaxed and a bit excited to finally be getting to the Big Apple. My secret thoughts included you - wondering if I would be home before you arrived.
We took a taxi from Penn Station and were really quickly whisked to our hotel. We stayed at the Manhatten Centre Hotel - and we would never want to stay anywhere else! What a super location and a perfect facility. We had what amounted to a little apartment of our own, microwave, kitchen sink, fridge....just across from Radio City Music Hall, just around a short corner from the famed skating rink, and we could just see a bit of St. Patrick's Cathedral from our window...(the place I have always felt God really lives on earth!).
Because we had missed lunch, we decided to get an early dinner and opted for the Terrace Restaurant in the hotel. Wow! were we glad of that choice! The Terrace actually has a glass enclosed section of the restaurant right over the street, as well as a small section which is open air - mostly used by smokers. It was very warm that day, so we chose to eat inside. The meal was amazing...I had lamb chops which were some of the best I've ever had, and Pop Pop had steak...says it was wonderful.
Here's a view out of our window.


Our first meal in NYC

After dinner we took a stroll through Rockefeller Center, and snapped a few pictures. As it was not long since Easter, there were so many floral displays, lillies everywhere, and lots of bunnies and things. I was relishing the personality of New York, everyone was happy to be there, as were we.



After some sightseeing, we went directly to St. Patrick's and recaptured the feelings I've always had there, and have been able to share with Pop Pop. I recall being a very young girl and going there for the first time. I can still feel the sense that the presence of God is palpable, that you can almost hear the angels singing. I so love it there. My first stop was with St. Jude. The cousin of Jesus, he has always been my go-to "guy" and he has always seemed to help me with my "impossible" causes. I talked to him about our cousin Rita who is in a fight with cancer, and about all my family. As we proceded through the church, we discovered that the Blessed Mother's Chapel was open - I don't know that I have ever gotten back there before, so we stopped there and I had a chat with her about Rita, and I asked her to be with you and your mommy as you were about to enter this lifetime...to bless your family and to help you grow strong and bright and beautiful.
During the time we were in the Cathedral, of course we had our phones turned off. Shortly after leaving, we turned them back on and discovered by a text from your Daddy that you had gotten things started on your birth just as we'd been praying for you! We were very excited, although I have to admit, I'd have liked to be there when you were making your entrance. But we both sent you lots of love and were happy that mommy was going to have her little girl in her arms very soon.

Saturday, April 3, 2010

Going to Great Heights

Seems to take more and more to impress myself as I get older.
I have been terrified of heights for most of my life. It started on a class trip in high school. We went on a trip to a steel manufacturing plant. We were chatting away, and suddenly I looked down and having not been aware we were on an open grid walkway, I saw molten steel below me and had the impression I was falling.

Never got over it.

Until a couple of years ago when I was actually able to climb up on our garage roof to clean the siding and roofing.
I was the mom who several times went up the ladder with her kids on a slide and then needed help getting down.
I was the woman who once climbed a ladder to clean her kitchen window and didn't get down for about an hour when I got someone to help me!
But now I have realized that a number of my fears have gone since I no longer have little ones depending on me.
I still don't hang out in high places, but I can actually talk myself up a ladder - which I did again today....to clean our siding.

Taking "clean the house" to greater heights!

And I am both impressed at myself and glad it's done!

Friday, April 2, 2010

A Sign of Maturing?

I am going to take this as a sign I may be maturing.
A dear friend asked me to read a book. He actually sent the book in question.
And he asked that after reading it, I tell him frankly, without fear of losing our friendship, what I think.
Doesn't sound so bad, does it?
But the book is about a topic I have feelings about - though they are vague, unformatted feelings, helter-skelter feelings - feelings I have only thought about on a shallow level.
I took the book from its wrapper today, took it outside to sit in the welcome sun and read.
And for the very first time ever, except for when I read the Bible, I couldn't bring myself to open it until I'd said a prayer. I have asked God to be with me as I read this book. I've asked Him/Her to open my eyes fully, to clear my mind, to soften up my heart so that I might see the truth of it - if truth there be.
I think I read somewhere something about the tendency we all have to cling to old beliefs, to hold fast against theories and ideas that conflict with what we have long believed.
So I will take it as a sign of maturity that I am both willing to read a book that might very well challenge what I have long believed, and that I have asked God to enlighten me.
I am rocking my mental boat, as it were.
I'll let you know more as I read.
Maybe.
If nothing else - I'll have ventured and I'll have tried. Not so bad for an old dog.

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Timing is Everything!






Timing is everything.
Our back neighbor has a young magnolia tree. And every year we watch it come to bloom just in time for the rains to come. For a few, brief moments, the flowers look magnificent and they emit the sweetest perfumes. And in the next moment, they are tattered and strewn upon the ground.
This year the rain pounded the tree's tight buds.
They held.
And the rains have stopped. And the buds have opened.

They look like spring. They look like Easter.
The timing was perfect....we are due to have about 4 or more days of sun and warmth and no rain. Congratulations little tree.

Timing is everything.